12 STEPS TO MAKE A GUY FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU?

1,Give him an eyeful
Not of your breasts or legs or any other body part, but of your eyes contact. Locking eyes with a guy doesn’t just tell him you’re interested, it can even make him feel like he’s dieing in love with you. Why? Because it’s the behaviour of loved-up couples. A study by Zick Rubin, former associate professor at Harvard University, US, found that lovers spent 75% of their time looking at each other; other couple spent around 30-60% of their time doing the same. By encouraging him to gaze into your eyes by maintaining eye contact with him, you can drive his brain towards the idea of love. “The last time he stared into someone eyes for long periods of time, he was in love,” says
expert Dr Pam Spurr (www.drpam.co.uk ). “So in theory, that could trigger his brain to recall
feelings of love again.”
2,Be like him
There’s no worry to start shaving your chin or scratching between your legs, but concentrate on the
ways in which you’re alike can create a mutual attraction. “We may not realise it, but we have a natural tendency to go for people who not
only have similar interests and backgrounds to us, but also use similar facial expressions,” says
Spurr. Researchers at the University of Liverpool discover that we’re more likely to go for people who
look similar to us because we perceive certain facial attributes as clues to personality. Laughter
lines, frown lines, wide smiles, restrained expressions are all indications of what a person is
like – sociable, friendly, shy, emotional – so we seek out people who look as though they’d be
compatible with us.
3,But don't go too far!
The mathematics for this one is simple: he’ll know, you’ll know and it doesn’t bode well for the future. “Adapting your behaviour slightly is one thing, but faking aspects of your personality or pretending you’re really into golf, when in fact it
bores you brainless, will just lead to trouble,” says sex therapist Dr Ian Kerner ( www.goodinbed.com )
. “Sometimes, however, you might find yourself enjoying things you didn’t before simply because
you hadn’t tried them and that’s fine. So feel blue to try the things he does, but if it doesn’t feel like a good fit, drop it. Instead, encourage him to try doing the things you enjoy and see how that works.”
4,Hang around... a lot!
This sounds counterintuitive but it’s not. Familiarity doesn’t breed contempt (unless he doesn’t like you in the first place, in which you’re
kind of doomed, sorry). In fact, the more time you stay together, the more he will like you.
“Advertising works in part because it repeatedly exposes you to a particularly product,” says Kerner. “It’s the same with people – the more time you spend together, taking for granted that there’s some mutual attraction to begin with, the
more you’ll grow to like each other.”
5,Now disappear
Okay, not from the face off the earth, but just enough to serve as a remind for him how much he loves spending time with you. “New couples often go through a stage where they’re living in each other’s pockets,” says Spurr. “Then there might come a period where the excited feelings level out. Before that happens, take a step back and be a little less available.” Spend more time with your friends (they’ve been feeling neglected anyhow!), see your family, work late a few nights. “This isn't about game playing but it'll give you a greater sense of control of your own emotions, and help to heighten his.
6,Ask for his help
We all like to feel needed 'important' The reason is simple: if someone needs to ask your advice, needs you to help them shift a bed, needs you to make them feel better, helping them makes you feel good
about yourself. Feeling needed can also make someone insecure feel safe – after all, if you need him, you’re less likely to run off with some other guy, right? “In this day and age when women are fiercely independent, a man can feel less able to give her what she needs – other than sex, what does he have to offer?” says Kerner. “So by relying on him a little – and letting him rely on
you too – you’re allowing the bond between you to deepen. A good step towards falling in love.”
7,Be confident too
Yes, guys like to feel needed. No, they don’t want to feel as though you might collapse into a boneless snivelling heap if they’re not around. “A woman who knows what she likes and makes every effort to get it is very attractive,” says Kerner. “In fact, when a woman like that needs a
man it makes him feel all the more valuable - because it’s as though she needs him specifically, rather than just any old guy.”
8,Laugh
More than wanting to be seen as strong, clever or tough, men want to be the funny one. And the reason is simple: women love a man who makes them laugh. “When people seem to be enjoying our entertaining banter, it makes us feel confident,” says Kerner. “And that, in turn, makes us feel good, sexy even. If, each time you see a guy, you leave him feeling great about himself,
he’ll begin to associate that feeling with you. You’re halfway to making him fall in love with you.”
9,Be a good friend
This one should be a no-brainer but for some reason it often gets ignored. “Playing hard to get,
teasing him, acting fragile are all ways you can try and ‘trick’ a man into a kind of love,” says Spurr. “But the fact is that if you want a man to
care about you deeply, friendship is the key. At work, with friends, men are often ‘on guard’, being competitive and so on. When they’re with you, they need to feel safe – game playing might help hook a guy in the first place, but it gets extremely tiring.” Being supportive, listening to him, making him laugh, helping him feel good about himself
and life in general – these are the things that make him really value you. And the more he values you, the more he loves you.
10,Feed him grapes
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. It’s such a cliché and it feels pretty sexist too. Why should a woman have to feed her man? And why can’t he feed YOU grapes
instead? Well, the fact is everyone – man, woman, dog or cat – loves to be fed. “This isn’t something that’s peculiar to men, but it is a sure-fire way to make anyone feel loved,” says Spurr. “It’s about being taken care of, partly, but it’s also because being hungry for food is such a
basic primal thing. If someone brings you a freshly prepared platter of tongue-tingling delights is it any wonder we love them more?” According to an informal poll over at Men's Health , a steak sandwich or baguette with fried onion or mushroom toppings would be most appreciated... along with an ice cold beer, of course.
11,Love him
Love is a two-way thing. You can’t expect him to love you if you don’t really love him in the first place. What does that mean? “Sometimes we want someone to fall in love with us because we need to feel wanted, but in reality, we’re not actually in love with the person ourselves,” says Spurr. “Ask yourself how you feel about this guy.
Do you accept him for who he is? Value him and the fact he’s in your life? Do you appreciate all that he does for you? Feel as though he’s your best friend, someone you can rely on in all things?
If not, you may just be wishing to be loved without being willing to love yourself. But the two go hand in hand.”
12,Love yourself
This is both the first and the last step in getting a guy to fall for you. Because if you don’t truly love
yourself, he will find it difficult to fall in love with you. Think of yourself as the number one gold prize – because to the right person that’s exactly what you are. To get to feel that good about yourself you need to learn to appreciate all the good
things you have to offer. And by that we don’t mean your pert derriere, your come-to-bed eyes or any other thing you can see in the mirror. It’s
also not about the new and expensive things in your wardrobe, your skills at work or the fact
you’ve got better dancefloor moves than anyone in Strictly, it’s about loving who you are as a person. “Knowing yourself, knowing that you’re sociable, witty, kind, insightful, cool under pressure, empathetic, whatever, is the first step in loving yourself,” says Kerner. “Then let him see your best attributes as often as you can.” Put
yourself in situations where you can shine and he’ll soon see the light.